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Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD

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2024-08-15 14:00:00 2024-08-15 15:00:00 America/New_York Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551 Toms River Branch -

Thursday, August 15
2:00pm - 3:00pm

Add to Calendar 2024-08-15 14:00:00 2024-08-15 15:00:00 America/New_York Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551 Toms River Branch -

To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551

To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551

Another college application season is around the corner, and stress is already beginning to ratchet up for teens and their parents. You’re invited to join us for this must-watch talk by Irena Smith, PhD. You will hear about constructive and healthy ways to approach the college application process, preserve your relationship with your teen, and help them define success on their terms instead of chasing the elusive “golden ticket.”

Irena is a former Stanford Admissions Officer who has spent 18 years advising accomplished, tightly-wound students in Palo Alto and around the world. She saw firsthand the extreme measures parents took to help their children gain admission to highly selective colleges and the toll it took on the children as well as on their parents.

At the same time, Irena’s own children struggled with developmental delays, learning differences, severe depression, and anxiety. She kept her double life—successful college counselor at work, anxious mom at home—tightly under wraps for years until a stunning realization: she was exactly like the anxious parents of the students she worked with, all of whom were equally terrified about their children's future. Irena’s memoir, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays, which candidly explores her personal as well as professional life, was published in 2023, and she has since devoted her time to speaking out about hard things: the heavy burden of generational expectations, teen and young adult mental health, and the importance of embracing a broader, more generous vision of what it means to succeed. To learn more about Irena’s personal experience as a parent, professional experience as a college admissions officer, and leave with tips on how to help your child approach the application process in practical, healthy ways–register now!

About the Author: Irena Smith is an author, former Stanford admissions officer, independent college counselor, and mother of three extraordinary children. She emigrated from the former Soviet Union with her parents when she was nine years old. In spite of her fierce insistence that she would never, not ever, learn English, she went on to earn a BA in English and then a PhD in Comparative Literature (both from UCLA, where she received a Distinguished Teaching Assistant Award and Dissertation Year Fellowship). Irena taught literature and composition at UCLA and Stanford before transitioning to college admissions, college advising, and writing. Her recently published memoir, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays is the winner of the Story Circle Network's Gilda Award, named in honor of comedian Gilda Radner to recognize honest, authentic writing that "makes us laugh even when we want to cry." It's been described by Forbes as “captivating and smart… a potential antidote to the fevered belief that being admitted to an elite college will spell the difference between a successful life vs. a doomed future.” She has given a TEDx talk on humanizing the college application process and writes about parenting, college admissions, and redefining success in her weekly Substack newsletter, The Golden Ticket (is not what you think). You can also find her on Substack at Personal Statements. 

AGE GROUP: | Teens | Seniors | Adults |

EVENT TYPE: | Virtual Program | Author Event |

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Sat, Nov 29, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What??

Sat, Nov 29, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What??

Mon, Dec 01, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Dec 01, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Dec 01, 9:30am - 2:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 01, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Mon, Dec 01, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Mon, Dec 01, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
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Mon, Dec 01, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Discovery Room
We have left over crafts and we need awesome kids to stop by and make them. Ages 6 - 12 No registration required.

Tue, Dec 02, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 02, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 11/18. Please register each child individually. Grow little one's love for the library with stories, songs, playtime, and more. Ages 12-23 months with a caregiver.
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Tue, Dec 02, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Tue, Dec 02, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 02, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Tue, Dec 02, 6:00pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Join players on an adventure in the world of Dungeons and Dragons! Open to new and experienced players. Space is limited, be sure to register. Ages 13-18.
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Tue, Dec 02, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Green Room
Come play video games at the library and make new friends.

Wed, Dec 03, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Dec 03, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Join us for a fun and relaxing afternoon designed for adults with special challenges.
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Wed, Dec 03, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Wed, Dec 03, 12:30pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Dec 03, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Gain valuable leadership skills and earn community service hours through our Teen Advisory Board (TAB). Meet us in the Teen Zone to Participate in our school year volunteer program!

Wed, Dec 03, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
B.Y.O.C.P.... Bring Your Own Crocheting Project!

Wed, Dec 03, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
Registration required starting 11/19. Join us every month to explore, create, and learn. This month, we will make DIY Light Up Cards using a simple circuit. Ages 8 - 12.

Wed, Dec 03, 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Mancini Hall
Actors from WREP will perform skits from radio's Golden Age of the 1940s and 1950s. This broadcast will feature episodes from Ozzie and Harriet, Life of Riley and 'Twas the Night Before Christmas.

Thu, Dec 04, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 04, 9:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
The Library Equal Access Program (LEAP) provides free training in the use of assistive technology on the iPad or iPhone. iPad experience is a prerequisite for this course.

Thu, Dec 04, 11:00am - 12:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Come learn about the Operation Homeplate program and see if you are eligible for NJSNAP benefits with the Ocean County Office of Senior Services.

Thu, Dec 04, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Thu, Dec 04, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 04, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Come Craft With Us!

Thu, Dec 04, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
No registration required. Stop by the Discovery Room to create colorful sand art. Ages 5-12.

Fri, Dec 05, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Dec 05, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Fri, Dec 05, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Dec 05, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Sat, Dec 06, 9:00am - 10:00am
As supplies last, check out a bundle of books and a craft to take home. Ages 3 - 7.

Sat, Dec 06, 10:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch for open hours and a paper gingerbread puppet craft.

Sat, Dec 06, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Sat, Dec 06, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sun, Dec 07, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space on Sundays. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Dec 08, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Dec 08, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Dec 08, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 11/24. Please register each child's name individually. Visit the library for an interactive program for you and your baby. For babies up to 12 months with a caregiver.

Mon, Dec 08, 10:30am - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 08, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 08, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Teens: Relax and unwind as you meet with friends, do hands-on activities, and learn about and practice self-care. In this session, we'll make our own totally chill snow globes to gift or keep!
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Mon, Dec 08, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Mancini Hall
Christmas with The King is a heartwarming and high-energy holiday showcase starring award-winning Elvis tribute artist Ruben Castillo.

Mon, Dec 08, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Bishop (upstairs)
Registration required; begins November 24th. Please register each child's name individually. Join us to play BINGO and win some prizes. Ages 7-12. Sponsored by the Friends of The Toms River Library

Mon, Dec 08, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
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Tue, Dec 09, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 09, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required, begins November 25. Please register each child individually. Enjoy stories, songs, and more for you and your little one. Ages 2-3 with a caregiver.

Tue, Dec 09, 11:00am - 3:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Tue, Dec 09, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 09, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Join us for some monthly crafts and conversations in the Maker Space. This program is for those who identify as LGBTQIA+ and their allies. All are welcome. Please Register.

Tue, Dec 09, 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Green Room
This month the selection is "The Light Pirate," by Lily Brooks-Dalton. Please register for this discussion.

Wed, Dec 10, 9:30am - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Dec 10, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Dec 10, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Registration required; begins November 26. Please register each child individually. Learn about penguins, listen to stories, and make a craft. Ages 3 - 5.

Wed, Dec 10, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Wed, Dec 10, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Wed, Dec 10, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Teen Zone
Join us for LGBTeens, a club for LGBTQIA+ and allied teens to participate in fun activities, support one another, explore our collection of LGBTQ books, and help create library programs.

Thu, Dec 11, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 11, 9:30am - 11:30am
Home Town Dairy
The Library Equal Access Program (LEAP) provides free training in the use of assistive technology on the iPad or iPhone. iPad experience is a prerequisite for this course.

Thu, Dec 11, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 11/27. Please register each child's name individually. Join us for stories, songs, and a craft. Ages 12 - 23 months.
Registration opens Thursday, November 27 2025 at 9:00am

Thu, Dec 11, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Thu, Dec 11, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Drop in and de-stress with therapy dogs. You can talk to the dogs about your troubles, relax, play, and hang out with the visiting furry friends.

Thu, Dec 11, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 11, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Thu, Dec 11, 7:00pm - 8:00pm
Teen Zone
Gain valuable leadership skills and earn community service hours through our Teen Advisory Board (TAB). Meet us in the Teen Zone to Participate in our school year volunteer program!

Fri, Dec 12, 10:00am - 11:30am
Librarian Allison Nazzaro will walk you through the best strategies you can use to search for obituaries, as well as how to locate a loved one's grave site.

Fri, Dec 12, 10:30am - 11:30am
Sensory Space
Registration required; begins November 28. Please register each child individually. Enjoy stories and songs while engaging your little one's senses in our calming Sensory Space. Ages 3-5
Registration opens Friday, November 28 2025 at 9:00am

Fri, Dec 12, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Dec 12, 2:00pm - 3:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Join us to learn about the benefits of using sugar scrubs and create your own to take home. Please register.

Sat, Dec 13, 10:00am - 11:00am
Bishop (upstairs)
Join Yoga and Pilates instructor, Belle Burns, for an hour long Gentle Yoga class. This program is great for beginners. Please bring a mat.

Sat, Dec 13, 10:30am - 2:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sun, Dec 14, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space on Sundays. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Dec 15, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Dec 15, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Dec 15, 1:30pm - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 15, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 15, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Do you want to build a gingerbread house? Come out to make one you can keep (or eat!) as we sip hot chocolate and listen to festive music. Potential allergens.
This event is full

Mon, Dec 15, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Once You Get Started, You'll Be Hooked!
This event is full

Tue, Dec 16, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 16, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Tue, Dec 16, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 16, 4:30pm - 5:30pm
Mancini Hall
Registration required; begins December 2. Please register each child individually. Practice your reading skills in the company of gentle therapy dogs. Ages 6 - 12.
Registration opens Tuesday, December 2 2025 at 9:00am

Tue, Dec 16, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Tue, Dec 16, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Learn to create DIY hoop art! Ages 12-18

Wed, Dec 17, 9:30am - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Dec 17, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Dec 17, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins December 3. Please register each child individually. Listen to winter themed stories, sing songs, and create a fun craft. Ages 2 - 3.
Registration opens Wednesday, December 3 2025 at 9:00am

Wed, Dec 17, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Wed, Dec 17, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
B.Y.O.C.P.... Bring Your Own Crocheting Project!

Thu, Dec 18, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Rescheduled
Thu, Dec 18, 11:00am - 2:30pm
New date Thursday, December 18, 11:00am - 2:00pm
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Thu, Dec 18, 11:00am - 2:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Thu, Dec 18, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 18, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Join us in the Makerspace for a by teens, for teens art hangout!

Thu, Dec 18, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Thu, Dec 18, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins 12/4. Please register each child's name individually. Test your creativity and engineering skills by constructing a gingerbread house using cardboard. Ages 7 - 12.
Registration opens Thursday, December 4 2025 at 9:00am

Thu, Dec 18, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Join us at the Teen Pop Culture Crafting Club as we make custom character keychains and cell phone charms out of shrink plastic!

Fri, Dec 19, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Dec 19, 10:30am - 11:30am
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins 12/5. Paint a ceramic cactus and hang out. Ages 6 - 12.
Registration opens Friday, December 5 2025 at 9:00am

Fri, Dec 19, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sat, Dec 20, 10:30am - 11:30am
Discovery Room
Drop in and create a snowy owl pinecone. No registration required. Ages 3-12.

Sat, Dec 20, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Mancini Hall
Come now friends into the light of the stranger and witness a thrilling adventure in the world of dungeons and dragons.

Sun, Dec 21, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 22, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Dec 22, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Dec 22, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Create Today?

Rescheduled
Mon, Dec 22, 12:30pm - 3:30pm
New date Monday, December 22, 11:00am - 1:00pm
What Will You Create Today?

Mon, Dec 22, 1:30pm - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 22, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
What Will You Create Today?

Rescheduled
Mon, Dec 22, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
New date Monday, December 22, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
What Will You Create Today?

Mon, Dec 22, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 23, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 23, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins December 9th. Please register each child's name individually. Enjoy an interactive program for you and your baby. For babies up to 12 months with a caregiver.
Registration opens Tuesday, December 9 2025 at 9:00am

Tue, Dec 23, 12:30pm - 3:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Tue, Dec 23, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 23, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Tue, Dec 23, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Atrium
Come unwind and listen to curated vinyl records under the stars of the Toms River library atrium.

Fri, Dec 26, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Fri, Dec 26, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Can We Build It? Yes, We Can!

Sat, Dec 27, 10:30am - 2:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.