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Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD

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2024-08-15 14:00:00 2024-08-15 15:00:00 America/New_York Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551 Toms River Branch -

Thursday, August 15
2:00pm - 3:00pm

Add to Calendar 2024-08-15 14:00:00 2024-08-15 15:00:00 America/New_York Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551 Toms River Branch -

To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551

To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551

Another college application season is around the corner, and stress is already beginning to ratchet up for teens and their parents. You’re invited to join us for this must-watch talk by Irena Smith, PhD. You will hear about constructive and healthy ways to approach the college application process, preserve your relationship with your teen, and help them define success on their terms instead of chasing the elusive “golden ticket.”

Irena is a former Stanford Admissions Officer who has spent 18 years advising accomplished, tightly-wound students in Palo Alto and around the world. She saw firsthand the extreme measures parents took to help their children gain admission to highly selective colleges and the toll it took on the children as well as on their parents.

At the same time, Irena’s own children struggled with developmental delays, learning differences, severe depression, and anxiety. She kept her double life—successful college counselor at work, anxious mom at home—tightly under wraps for years until a stunning realization: she was exactly like the anxious parents of the students she worked with, all of whom were equally terrified about their children's future. Irena’s memoir, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays, which candidly explores her personal as well as professional life, was published in 2023, and she has since devoted her time to speaking out about hard things: the heavy burden of generational expectations, teen and young adult mental health, and the importance of embracing a broader, more generous vision of what it means to succeed. To learn more about Irena’s personal experience as a parent, professional experience as a college admissions officer, and leave with tips on how to help your child approach the application process in practical, healthy ways–register now!

About the Author: Irena Smith is an author, former Stanford admissions officer, independent college counselor, and mother of three extraordinary children. She emigrated from the former Soviet Union with her parents when she was nine years old. In spite of her fierce insistence that she would never, not ever, learn English, she went on to earn a BA in English and then a PhD in Comparative Literature (both from UCLA, where she received a Distinguished Teaching Assistant Award and Dissertation Year Fellowship). Irena taught literature and composition at UCLA and Stanford before transitioning to college admissions, college advising, and writing. Her recently published memoir, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays is the winner of the Story Circle Network's Gilda Award, named in honor of comedian Gilda Radner to recognize honest, authentic writing that "makes us laugh even when we want to cry." It's been described by Forbes as “captivating and smart… a potential antidote to the fevered belief that being admitted to an elite college will spell the difference between a successful life vs. a doomed future.” She has given a TEDx talk on humanizing the college application process and writes about parenting, college admissions, and redefining success in her weekly Substack newsletter, The Golden Ticket (is not what you think). You can also find her on Substack at Personal Statements. 

AGE GROUP: | Teens | Seniors | Adults |

EVENT TYPE: | Virtual Program | Author Event |

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Sun, Dec 28, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space on Sundays. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Dec 29, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Dec 29, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Dec 29, 9:00am - 10:00am
As supplies last, check out a bundle of books and a craft to take home. Ages 3 - 7.

Mon, Dec 29, 11:30am - 3:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 29, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
YS Living Room/YS Area
Play video games and make some new friends. Ages 4 - 12. No registration required.

Tue, Dec 30, 11:30am - 3:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 30, 12:30pm - 3:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Tue, Dec 30, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Robots Have Taken Over Sparks's Lab!

Wed, Dec 31, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 02, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 02, 10:30am - 11:30am
Discovery Room
Drop into the Children's Department for some building fun. Ages 5 - 12. No registration required.

Fri, Jan 02, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will Create Today?

Fri, Jan 02, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 02, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will Create Today?

Sat, Jan 03, 10:00am - 12:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!?

Sat, Jan 03, 10:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch for open hours and a polar bear craft.

Sat, Jan 03, 1:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sat, Jan 03, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!?

Sat, Jan 03, 2:30pm - 3:30pm
YS Living Room/YS Area
Play video games and make some new friends. Ages 4 - 12. No registration required.

Sun, Jan 04, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space on Sundays. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Jan 05, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Jan 05, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Jan 05, 10:30am - 11:30am
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins December 22. Please register each child individually. Learn about owls, listen to stories, and make a craft. Ages 3 - 5.

Mon, Jan 05, 10:30am - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Jan 05, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Registration required; begins December 22. Please register each child individually. Help Sherlock Holmes solve some mysteries. Ages 7 - 12.

Mon, Jan 05, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Jan 05, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Get your paint on!
This event is full

Mon, Jan 05, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Once You Get Started, You'll Be Hooked!

Tue, Jan 06, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 06, 10:00am - 11:00am
Discovery Room
Registration required, begins December 23. Please register each child individually. Make colorful art and enjoy playtime for you and your little one. Ages 6-23 months with a caregiver.

Tue, Jan 06, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Come Make Some Art With Us!

Tue, Jan 06, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 06, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Come Make Some Art With Us!

Tue, Jan 06, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Green Room
Come play video games at the library and make new friends.

Wed, Jan 07, 9:30am - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Jan 07, 10:00am - 11:00am
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins December 24. Please register each child individually. Listen to winter themed stories, sing songs, and create a fun craft. Ages 2 - 3.
This event is full

Wed, Jan 07, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!!?

Wed, Jan 07, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Gain valuable leadership skills and earn community service hours through our Teen Advisory Board (TAB). Meet us in the Teen Zone to Participate in our school year volunteer program!

Wed, Jan 07, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!!?

Wed, Jan 07, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
Registration required starting 12/24. Join us on the first Wednesday of every month to explore, create, and learn. This month, we will make DIY Light up cards + a ski jump challenge. Ages 8 - 12.

Thu, Jan 08, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Jan 08, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Won't Hear A Chirp!

Thu, Jan 08, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Make Today?

Thu, Jan 08, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Drop in and de-stress with therapy dogs. You can talk to the dogs about your troubles, relax, play, and hang out with the visiting furry friends.

Thu, Jan 08, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Jan 08, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Make Today?

Thu, Jan 08, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
No registration required. Stop by the Discovery Room to make a fun craft to celebrate winter! Ages 5-12.

Fri, Jan 09, 10:30am - 11:30am
Sensory Space
Registration required; begins 12/26. Please register each child's name individually. Enjoy stories and songs while engaging your little one's senses in our calming Sensory Space. Ages 3 - 5.

Fri, Jan 09, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Fri, Jan 09, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 09, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Sat, Jan 10, 10:30am - 2:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sun, Jan 11, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space on Sundays. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Jan 12, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Jan 12, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Jan 12, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 12/29. Please register each child's name individually. Learn about work vehicles with stories, songs, and a craft. Ages 2 - 3.
Registration opens Monday, December 29 2025 at 9:00am

Mon, Jan 12, 4:30pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Jan 12, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Learn the basics of 3D modeling, software, and printing!

Mon, Jan 12, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Teens: Relax and unwind as you meet with friends, do hands-on activities, and learn about and practice self-care. In this session, we'll peek into our futures, and create high-vibe crystal necklaces.

Mon, Jan 12, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins December 29th. Register each child individually. Decorate a puzzle and hang out. Ages 7 - 12.
Registration opens Monday, December 29 2025 at 9:00am

Tue, Jan 13, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 13, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Registration required, begins December 30. Please register each child individually. Visit the library to develop pre-literacy skills with stories, songs, movement, & more. Ages 3-5 with a caregiver.
Registration opens Tuesday, December 30 2025 at 9:00am

Tue, Jan 13, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Tue, Jan 13, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Jan 14, 9:30am - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Jan 14, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins December 31. Please register each child individually. Grow little one's love for the library with stories, songs, playtime, and more. Ages 12-23 months with a caregiver.
Registration opens Wednesday, December 31 2025 at 9:00am

Wed, Jan 14, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Come Make Some Art With Us!

Wed, Jan 14, 6:00pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
B.Y.O.C.P... Bring Your Own Crocheting Project!

Rescheduled
Wed, Jan 14, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
New date Wednesday, January 21, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Come create fun crafts using upcycled maps.

Thu, Jan 15, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins January 1. Please register each child individually. Move and groove along to golden oldies songs and interactive stories. For babies from 0 - 18 months.
Registration opens Thursday, January 1 2026 at 9:00am

Thu, Jan 15, 11:00am - 2:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!!?

Thu, Jan 15, 11:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Jan 15, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Jan 15, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Join us in the Makerspace for a by teens, for teens art hangout!

Thu, Jan 15, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!!?

Fri, Jan 16, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 16, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Won't Hear A Chirp!

Fri, Jan 16, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What WIll You Make Today?

Fri, Jan 16, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sat, Jan 17, 10:00am - 11:00am
Bishop (upstairs)
Namaste!

Sat, Jan 17, 10:30am - 11:30am
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins January 3. Please register each child individually. Learn about Martin Luther King Jr. and make a craft. Ages 3 - 12.
Registration opens Saturday, January 3 2026 at 9:00am

Sat, Jan 17, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Sat, Jan 17, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Sun, Jan 18, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space on Sundays. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Jan 19, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Jan 19, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Jan 19, 9:00am - 10:00am
As supplies last, check out a bundle of books and a craft to take home. Ages 3 - 7.

Mon, Jan 19, 10:30am - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Jan 19, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Jan 19, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's Make Something!

Tue, Jan 20, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 20, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Won't Hear A Chirp!

Tue, Jan 20, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Make Today?

Tue, Jan 20, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 20, 4:30pm - 5:30pm
Mancini Hall
Registration required; begins January 6. Please register each child individually. Practice your reading skills in the company of gentle therapy dogs. Ages 6 - 12.
Registration opens Tuesday, January 6 2026 at 9:00am

Tue, Jan 20, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
What Will You Make Today?

Tue, Jan 20, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Learn to create silhouette art from buttons! Materials will be provided. Ages 12 - 18

Wed, Jan 21, 9:30am - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Jan 21, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required, begins January 7. Please register each child individually. Enjoy playtime, coloring, and more. Ages 2-3 with a caregiver.
Registration opens Wednesday, January 7 2026 at 9:00am

Wed, Jan 21, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Wed, Jan 21, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Wed, Jan 21, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Green Room
Trevor's Banned Book Club believes reading is fundamental and knowledge is power. Gather to read and discuss books that have been subject to bans across the country.

Wed, Jan 21, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Come create fun crafts using upcycled maps.
Registration opens Monday, December 29 2025 at 9:00am

Thu, Jan 22, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Jan 22, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Come Make Some Art With Us!

Thu, Jan 22, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Jan 22, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Come Make Some Art With Us!

Thu, Jan 22, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Potato chips are a tasty treat! Potential allergens.
Registration opens Thursday, January 1 2026 at 9:00am

Fri, Jan 23, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 23, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 1/9. Please register each child's name individually. Join us for stories and songs in English and Spanish. A craft will also be provided. Ages 3 - 5.
Registration opens Friday, January 9 2026 at 9:00am

Fri, Jan 23, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!!?

Fri, Jan 23, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Jan 23, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Come learn about self-care and the ways you can improve your self-care skills. Please register.

Fri, Jan 23, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!!?

Sat, Jan 24, 10:30am - 2:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Sun, Jan 25, 1:30pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch. Due to the high demand, there is a limit of 15 minutes in the Space. Availability is first come, first serve.

Mon, Jan 26, All day
McConnell Gallery
Come enjoy acrylic paintings by Cheryl Williams in the McConnell Gallery.

Mon, Jan 26, All day
Gallery Spaces - Second Floor
Come enjoy paintings by Donald Perrone in the Second Floor Gallery.

Mon, Jan 26, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 1/12. Please register each child's name individually. Join us for stories, songs, and some playtime. Ages 12 - 23 months.
Registration opens Monday, January 12 2026 at 9:00am

Mon, Jan 26, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
An introduction to MS Word

Mon, Jan 26, 4:30pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Jan 26, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Create digitized masterpieces!

Mon, Jan 26, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Come out for a fun teens-only night of games, snacks, and lots of laughs, and have the chance to make new friends! Potential allergens: pizza and snacks!
This event is full

Tue, Jan 27, 9:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 27, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Won't Hear A Chirp!

Tue, Jan 27, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!?

Tue, Jan 27, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Jan 27, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What?!!?

Tue, Jan 27, 6:00pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Join players on an adventure in the world of Dungeons and Dragons! Open to new and experienced players. Space is limited, be sure to register. Ages 13-18.
Registration opens Monday, December 29 2025 at 9:00am

Tue, Jan 27, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Green Room
Come unwind and listen to curated vinyl records.