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Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD

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2024-08-15 14:00:00 2024-08-15 15:00:00 America/New_York Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551 Toms River Branch -

Thursday, August 15
2:00pm - 3:00pm

Add to Calendar 2024-08-15 14:00:00 2024-08-15 15:00:00 America/New_York Virtual Talk with College Admissions Author Irena Smith, PhD To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551 Toms River Branch -

To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551

To register, visit https://libraryc.org/theoceancountylibrary/52551

Another college application season is around the corner, and stress is already beginning to ratchet up for teens and their parents. You’re invited to join us for this must-watch talk by Irena Smith, PhD. You will hear about constructive and healthy ways to approach the college application process, preserve your relationship with your teen, and help them define success on their terms instead of chasing the elusive “golden ticket.”

Irena is a former Stanford Admissions Officer who has spent 18 years advising accomplished, tightly-wound students in Palo Alto and around the world. She saw firsthand the extreme measures parents took to help their children gain admission to highly selective colleges and the toll it took on the children as well as on their parents.

At the same time, Irena’s own children struggled with developmental delays, learning differences, severe depression, and anxiety. She kept her double life—successful college counselor at work, anxious mom at home—tightly under wraps for years until a stunning realization: she was exactly like the anxious parents of the students she worked with, all of whom were equally terrified about their children's future. Irena’s memoir, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays, which candidly explores her personal as well as professional life, was published in 2023, and she has since devoted her time to speaking out about hard things: the heavy burden of generational expectations, teen and young adult mental health, and the importance of embracing a broader, more generous vision of what it means to succeed. To learn more about Irena’s personal experience as a parent, professional experience as a college admissions officer, and leave with tips on how to help your child approach the application process in practical, healthy ways–register now!

About the Author: Irena Smith is an author, former Stanford admissions officer, independent college counselor, and mother of three extraordinary children. She emigrated from the former Soviet Union with her parents when she was nine years old. In spite of her fierce insistence that she would never, not ever, learn English, she went on to earn a BA in English and then a PhD in Comparative Literature (both from UCLA, where she received a Distinguished Teaching Assistant Award and Dissertation Year Fellowship). Irena taught literature and composition at UCLA and Stanford before transitioning to college admissions, college advising, and writing. Her recently published memoir, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays is the winner of the Story Circle Network's Gilda Award, named in honor of comedian Gilda Radner to recognize honest, authentic writing that "makes us laugh even when we want to cry." It's been described by Forbes as “captivating and smart… a potential antidote to the fevered belief that being admitted to an elite college will spell the difference between a successful life vs. a doomed future.” She has given a TEDx talk on humanizing the college application process and writes about parenting, college admissions, and redefining success in her weekly Substack newsletter, The Golden Ticket (is not what you think). You can also find her on Substack at Personal Statements. 

AGE GROUP: | Teens | Seniors | Adults |

EVENT TYPE: | Virtual Program | Author Event |

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Wed, Nov 05, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Nov 05, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Nov 05, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins October 22. Please register each child's name individually. An interactive program for you and your baby. For babies up to 12 months with a caregiver.
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Wed, Nov 05, 10:30am - 11:15am
A fun magic show for adults with special challenges -filled with laughter, surprises, and the joy of reading!
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Wed, Nov 05, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Wed, Nov 05, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Gain valuable leadership skills and earn community service hours through our Teen Advisory Board (TAB). Meet us in the Teen Zone to Participate in our school year volunteer program!
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Wed, Nov 05, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Nov 05, 2:00pm - 3:30pm
Green Room
Knitting instructor Gail Michelini will teach beginner friendly knitting skills through hands on & guided instruction.
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Wed, Nov 05, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
BYOCP... Bring Your Own Crocheting Project!

Wed, Nov 05, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
Registration required starting 10/22. Join us every month to explore, create, and learn. This month, we will learn about the Binary Code and we will make Binary Code Art. Ages 8 - 12.
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Thu, Nov 06, 9:00am - 10:00am
As supplies last, check out a bundle of books and a craft to take home. Ages 3 - 7.

Thu, Nov 06, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Nov 06, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Thu, Nov 06, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Nov 06, 2:15pm - 3:30pm
Mancini Hall
Get ready to kick up your heels!

Thu, Nov 06, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Thu, Nov 06, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
No registration required. Stop by the Discovery Room to create a thoughtful card for Veterans Day. All cards will be sent to our Veterans! Ages 3-12.

Sat, Nov 08, 10:00am - 11:00am
Bishop (upstairs)
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Sat, Nov 08, 2:30pm - 3:30pm
Registration required; begins October 23. Please register each child individually. Ages 6-12 with their families

Mon, Nov 10, 10:30am - 11:30am
Discovery Room
Registration required; begins 10/27. Create a lantern using recycled jars and pressed flowers in honor of National Native American Heritage Month. Ages 6 - 12.

Mon, Nov 10, 1:30pm - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Nov 10, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Green Room
The Friends of the Ocean County Library - Toms River meet monthly to discuss fund raising activities that support the library. New members are welcome.

Mon, Nov 10, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Nov 10, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
A beginner's introduction to Excel class
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Wed, Nov 12, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Nov 12, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Registration required; begins October 29. Please register each child individually. Learn about squirrels, listen to stories, and make a craft. Ages 3 - 5.

Wed, Nov 12, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What???

Wed, Nov 12, 11:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Nov 12, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Nov 12, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What???

Wed, Nov 12, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Bishop (upstairs)
Learn to play the ukulele with music teacher Joe Brausam! This fun and friendly program is perfect for beginners?no experience needed. Just bring your curiosity and love for music.

Thu, Nov 13, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 10/30. Please register each child's name individually. Join us for stories, songs, and a craft. Ages 3 - 5.

Thu, Nov 13, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Thu, Nov 13, 12:00pm - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Nov 13, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Drop in and de-stress with therapy dogs. You can talk to the dogs about your troubles, relax, play, and hang out with the visiting furry friends.

Thu, Nov 13, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Nov 13, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Thu, Nov 13, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Bishop (upstairs)
A representative from the Office of Disability Services at Ocean County College will discuss eligibility determination and requesting accommodations during your transition from high school to OCC.

Fri, Nov 14, 10:00am - 3:00pm
Atrium,Lobby,Mancini Hall
Drop by to browse a selection of books, DVDs, CDs, jewelry and accessories.

Fri, Nov 14, 10:00am - 11:00am
Are you passionate about genealogy but don't know where to begin? Have you been researching your family history for some time but recently hit a wall? Then this class is for you!

Fri, Nov 14, 10:30am - 11:30am
Sensory Space
Registration required; begins October 31. Please register each child individually. Enjoy stories and songs while engaging your little one's senses in our calming Sensory Space. Ages 3-5.
This event is full

Fri, Nov 14, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Fri, Nov 14, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Nov 14, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Sat, Nov 15, 10:00am - 1:00pm
Atrium,Lobby,Mancini Hall
Drop by to browse a selection of books, DVDs, CDs, jewelry and accessories.

Mon, Nov 17, 4:30pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Nov 17, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Love to bake or want to learn how? Come bake up something special to share with friends and family this Thanksgiving. Potential allergens.
This event is full

Tue, Nov 18, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Nov 18, 10:00am - 11:00am
YS Living Room/YS Area
No registration required. Engage with toys and activities that encourage skill building and creativity for your little one. Ages 1 - 5.

Tue, Nov 18, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Won't Hear A Chirp!

Tue, Nov 18, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Tue, Nov 18, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Nov 18, 3:00pm - 4:00pm
Teen Zone
Gain valuable leadership skills and earn community service hours through our Teen Advisory Board (TAB). Meet us in the Teen Zone to Participate in our school year volunteer program!

Tue, Nov 18, 4:30pm - 5:30pm
Mancini Hall
Registration required; begins November 4. Please register each child individually. Practice your reading skills in the company of gentle therapy dogs. Ages 6 - 12.

Tue, Nov 18, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Tue, Nov 18, 6:00pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Join players on an adventure in the world of Dungeons and Dragons! Open to new and experienced players. Space is limited, be sure to register. Ages 13-18.
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Tue, Nov 18, 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Green Room
This month the selection is "The Day the World Came to Town," by Jim DeFede. Please register for this discussion.

Wed, Nov 19, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Nov 19, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Nov 19, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Wed, Nov 19, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Nov 19, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
BYOCP... Bring Your Own Crocheting Project!

Wed, Nov 19, 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Mancini Hall
Jazz duo Brian Betz and Behn Gillece will perform a selection of American standards and classic jazz songs.

Thu, Nov 20, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What???

Thu, Nov 20, 12:00pm - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Nov 20, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Nov 20, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What???

Thu, Nov 20, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Mancini Hall
Join us for a fun, interactive show of tricks by a dog team of American Eskimo dogs--The Amazing Eskies!

Thu, Nov 20, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Join us as we create a beautiful winter themed painting on a wooden pallet with Debby Pease.  Sponsored by The Friends of the Ocean County Library - Toms River.  Please Register. 
This event is full

Fri, Nov 21, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Nov 21, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 11/7. Please register each child's name individually. Visit the library for an interactive program for you and your baby. For babies up to 12 months with a caregiver.
Registration opens Friday, November 7 2025 at 9:00am

Fri, Nov 21, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Fri, Nov 21, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Nov 21, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Sat, Nov 22, 10:30am - 12:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch for open hours and a torn paper turkey craft. While supplies last.

Sat, Nov 22, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Nov 24, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins November 10. Please register each child individually. Listen to fall themed stories, sing songs, and create a fun craft. Ages 2 - 3.
Registration opens Monday, November 10 2025 at 9:00am

Mon, Nov 24, 1:30pm - 5:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Nov 24, 6:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Nov 24, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's Make Something!

Mon, Nov 24, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Teens: Relax and unwind as you meet with friends, do hands-on activities, and learn about and practice self-care. In this session, we'll chill out while making bracelets for our besties.

Tue, Nov 25, 9:30am - 1:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Nov 25, 11:00am - 12:30pm
Caregiver Volunteers of Central Jersey, in partnership with the Ocean County Library, is offering a support group for caregivers and their loved ones.

Tue, Nov 25, 11:00am - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Tue, Nov 25, 5:30pm - 7:30pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Let's A Go!

Tue, Nov 25, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Atrium
Come unwind and listen to curated vinyl records under the stars of the Toms River library atrium.

Wed, Nov 26, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Nov 26, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Won't Hear A Chirp!

Wed, Nov 26, 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
Make And Take Home A Perler Bead Buddy!

Sat, Nov 29, 11:00am - 1:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What??

Sat, Nov 29, 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Sparks's Lab (Makerspace)
You Made What??

Mon, Dec 01, 4:30pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Mon, Dec 01, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Get creative!
This event is full

Mon, Dec 01, 6:30pm - 7:30pm
Discovery Room
We have left over crafts and we need awesome kids to stop by and make them. Ages 6 - 12 No registration required.

Tue, Dec 02, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 02, 10:00am - 11:00am
Green Room
Registration required; begins 11/18. Please register each child individually. Grow little one's love for the library with stories, songs, playtime, and more. Ages 12-23 months with a caregiver.
Registration opens Tuesday, November 18 2025 at 9:00am

Tue, Dec 02, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Tue, Dec 02, 6:00pm - 7:30pm
Home Town Dairy
Join players on an adventure in the world of Dungeons and Dragons! Open to new and experienced players. Space is limited, be sure to register. Ages 13-18.

Tue, Dec 02, 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Green Room
Come play video games at the library and make new friends.

Wed, Dec 03, 9:30am - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Wed, Dec 03, 10:00am - 11:00am
Home Town Dairy
New to speaking English? Join us and talk about current events and more. New members welcome.

Wed, Dec 03, 10:30am - 11:30am
Green Room
Join us for a fun and relaxing afternoon designed for adults with special challenges.
Registration opens Wednesday, November 19 2025 at 9:00am

Wed, Dec 03, 2:00pm - 3:00pm
Teen Zone
Gain valuable leadership skills and earn community service hours through our Teen Advisory Board (TAB). Meet us in the Teen Zone to Participate in our school year volunteer program!

Wed, Dec 03, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
Registration required starting 11/19. Join us every month to explore, create, and learn. This month, we will make DIY Light Up Cards using a simple circuit. Ages 8 - 12.
Registration opens Wednesday, November 19 2025 at 9:00am

Wed, Dec 03, 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Mancini Hall
Actors from WREP will perform skits from radio's Golden Age of the 1940s and 1950s. This broadcast will feature episodes from Ozzie and Harriet, Life of Riley and 'Twas the Night Before Christmas.

Thu, Dec 04, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 04, 11:00am - 12:00pm
Home Town Dairy
Come learn about the Operation Homeplate program and see if you are eligible for NJSNAP benefits with the Ocean County Office of Senior Services.

Thu, Dec 04, 2:00pm - 8:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Thu, Dec 04, 6:00pm - 7:00pm
Discovery Room
No registration required. Stop by the Discovery Room to create colorful sand art. Ages 5-12.

Fri, Dec 05, 9:30am - 1:00pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.

Fri, Dec 05, 2:00pm - 4:30pm
Sensory Space
Visit the Sensory Space on the 2nd floor of the Toms River Branch.